Dating means boyfriend girlfriend
Why V-Day is scary Valentine’s Day creates pressure to sort out all this confusion, and also gives people an excuse to define their relationship with certainty.Both people have to agree if they are already in or want to move into a relationship, which determines whether they do the V-Day thing together.
You are either boyfriend and girlfriend, or pure friends, so there is no chance to be confused. It can sometimes take a long time for a romantic relationship to develop into an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There are all kinds of different stages of relationships that foreigners need to be aware of, and some of them will always seem kind of ridiculous (like the open-relationship stuff, I am just never able to get it).
It is hard to believe that my first big day romance-wise happened in a country that I am not from and with a guy who is not Chinese.
But I think it just made the whole thing fun, cool and memorable.
I was listening to On Air with Ryan Seacrest a few days ago, and a girl called in crying, saying how disappointed she felt that the guy she was dating did not take her out for Valentine’s Day.
The hosts said that this was normal - the guy and girl did not have the exclusivity talk to figure out where they were in the relationship, and obviously they were not on the same page. A couple of my American friends told me they would rather just be alone on V-Day, even though they are dating someone. Because they are just not sure if they are ready to take the dating to another level, and they do not want to create a misunderstanding with their partner.
In other words, when it comes to V-Day, people either have it for sure, or don’t even think of it. But the key is that everything is talkable, and open communication is the key to navigating the relationship scene in a country that we are not originally from.