We were dating but not sleeping together
D., author of , also believes that waiting allows us to avoid what she calls "emotional shrapnel" but adds that "anytime you're putting too' on your sex life—too much, too little, too soon—it shouldn't come from a place of pressure and expectation."So block out what anyone else thinks, and come up with the sexual timing that works best for you.But while you're at it, consider the following five reasons to hold off a little: They come from therapists, sexologists and real women, and they're compelling.
Since I was no longer a 15-year-old who needed sex to demonstrate my desirability or feel better about myself, my pattern wasn't terribly satisfying anymore.So one night, during a romantic dinner at my favorite Italian bistro (I'd insisted that we finally go somewhere other than our apartments), I announced, "I don't think we have what it takes to make it in the long run." After six months of ordering takeout and sleeping over, we were breaking up on our first real date.