Sophomore in high school dating freshman in college
Get out there and meet people and be able to have something to bring to the conversation. More importantly, if you are a needy person and you want to date a loner, you will have problems getting to a comfortable intimacy level. If a girl is known around campus as a cheater or if a guy's reputation is less than angelic, don't think that you will be the one to break the mold.
Try to find someone that you think you can relate to - socially and mentally. Nothing is worse than being the one who 'shoulda-seen-it-coming' when a person's old habits repeat themselves. Separate your relationship from your school responsibilities.
The idea is that men and women—jocks and dorks, freshman and seniors—base their search not only on the characteristics of their chosen partner, but also the expected terms of the relationship.
For 30-year-olds, that might mean predicating a relationship on willingness to marry or have kids.
Also, if something goes wrong, you'll need your core group of friends to hold you up and be there for you. Having middle men and friends that like to interfere ('help') only makes problems worse. Whether you're 15 or 55, keeping open communication with the person you're dating is absolutely essential.
High schools are full of rumors and drama - don't get sucked into arguments caused by something a friend of a friend might have seen. Most of bad break-ups and horrible fights of high school dating could have been avoided if the couple had made an effort to talk to one another about problems instead of jumping to conclusions. Don't push your boundaries, and don't let anyone else cross them.
If you don't know what the boundaries are in your relationship, establish them before you end up in an uncomfortable situation. Remember that after high school, life changes dramatically.
Once you know your boundaries, demand that they be respected. Sometimes the strongest boundaries are mental, or emotional. That's not to say that you can't form a lasting relationship at a young age, it just means that you need to be ready for long distance and a whole new set of problems as an adult.
—interested in sex, whereas girls, no matter how boy-crazy, tend to focus on relationships.
One coed argues that the gender imbalance has engendered a culture where men routinely cheat on their female partners.