Godly dating principles
This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.However, Scripture is clear that it doesn't matter if someone has been married or not, sex with someone other than your spouse is still fornication (I Thessalonians 4:3, I Corinthians 6:9).Don't wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date's home overnight.If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.
For the single parent, this means that you will have to do some "guarding" for your children by not involving them with your suitors too soon in a relationship.And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).Some people hold off until engagement before introducing their significant other to their kids.
(Granted, this can create other complications because you want to know how your children will respond to a potential mate prior to engagement.) Bryan, a single father of three, always meets his dates on neutral ground with his children, such as at a church picnic or at movie theatre with friends.He never introduces his date as his girlfriend, but a friend.