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Cons: The lengthy survey you must complete before you sign up.
It is 100s of questions long and asks many probing questions about religion and moral views.
It seems unavoidable that if we have filters and tick-boxes for features and likes or dislikes, we could be cutting off literally thousands of potential suitors because of something we might have thought minor or irrelevant if we met in the flesh.
And, by the way, the tick-box that chooses whether you’re shown people with children or not can have an even more dramatic result, with 90% of the people I asked (a straw poll of 10 in the office) saying they’d chosen not to be shown people with children.
Pros: Free to join and to have limited contact with members.
With judgemental tick-boxes they would have filtered out the very person they are in love with now.
And there’s no sense in ruling someone out for reasons that may become insignificant once you’ve met in real life.
‘Only show me people without children’ ‘Only show me men over 6ft 1in’ ‘Only show me vegetarians’ ‘Only show me people who don’t want kids’ The tick-boxes on many dating sites are a common part of the structure of the sites – and people often fill them in and make their choices quickly, based on in-the-moment gut feeling, prejudice or a past bad experience.
But too many filters and rigid check-boxes can have you dismiss huge numbers of people at once – something that apps like Bumble, Happn and Tinder tried to do away with (though that brings its own set of issues).
One 5ft 10in friend reports she saw only 400 potential men to browse when she logged in to
Another friend is about to marry the short, bald banker with absolutely no ‘online dating’ message-type chat she met at a party.