Dating commitment issues
Who cares that you don't know the full rules of basketball and don't really care?
They constantly reiterate how casual everything is.
There's a huge difference, though, when someone does this all the time, to the point where your main interaction with them is rainchecking. They only plan dates around what’s convenient for them.
Since their schedule is just ~too busy~, their ideas of dates include inviting you to a bar where, oh wow, *their* team is currently playing and it’s suuuuuch a tight game!
But that dude sending you another “haha :)” before ghosting for two days is probably not on that path right now.
Does your partner blow hot and cold, have an aversion to making plans or think that their needs should always come first?Because they don't want to view dating as "serious", they don't stress over or prioritize getting there on time and don't really care if them cancelling screws up their chances with you. They’re pretty impulsive, but only when it comes to you.