Chatting with naughty teens
A child who is defiant, stubbornly refuses to cooperate and ignores simple requests can make every day feel like an uphill struggle.
Putting A Stop To Whining: Every parent suffers through it: the loud, obnoxious, pull-your-hair-out whining of a child who wants his or her way, now.
For example, “I noticed you ignored the librarian when she asked you to stop talking. Either you can act more politely or we will have to leave story-time.” Children learn how to respond appropriately by watching and imitating those around them. The most effective way to get your child to act respectfully is to treat them with respect and also to let them see you act respectfully towards other people. • Let your child know exactly what behaviour is not acceptable by including statements about respectful behaviour in your house rules eg “No swearing”, “at dinner time, we sit nicely at the table”.
• Teach your child social manners by giving continual, gentle reminders about appropriate communication and behaviour.
A child who feels listened to is less likely to try to have the last word.
You may want to try using a thought box to encourage communication.
Be polite, courteous, considerate and well-mannered, and you will soon see such an attitude from your child.“In our family, we don’t talk to each other rudely.” • When your child is rude, don’t laugh as this will give your child positive attention and encourage them to continue being rude.